The worse bit is, that the itch.io I got gifted to give away are likely in the same place - I had one keys folder. Cute stuff in that list too, like Warden, Melody of the Undergrowth. I feel like an idiot. I feel sick.
Started Recuva⌠If it doesnât work, Iâll have to purchase the other software to get my stuff back.
So Iâm shaken. I said something to an acquaintance online that I thought was an okay guy. He went ape ykw on me when I made a comment that he chose to take personally and misunderstand.
When I tried to explain what I mean, he told me âstop explaining it like he was a 5 year old⌠or perhaps you areâ
So yeah, he then complained that Iâd been ignoring him all day - when I told him I was busy before hand and what I was doing. High horse much? shrug I donât why he thought I âowedâ him my time when he requested it, because we have not been chatting online that long.
Maybe Iâm too nice sometimes? I dunno. When he said: Ok take care, bye. I simply said goodbye because in my view, I wonât submit to someoneâs temper tantrum; to manipulate me into feeling bad about the situation, when
a) I tried to explain myself and he didnât listen
b) He decided that âItâs clear youâre happy doing what youâre doing and then accusing me of such a HEINOUS thing ON TOP of ignoring me all day âŚâ So when he decided I wasnât worth his time and said âbyeâ, in my view, I said âGoodbyeâ in agreement.
I donât argue with walls. Iâm truly shaken up by that sudden turn of events and itâs not been an easy week - very high stress. Just wanted to let someone know. Heâs deleted me on Steam, perhaps on Discord too. I certainly hope so, because his attitude comes of as controlling and entitled to me suddenlyâŚ
If someone is not willing to hear you out to give you the opportunity to correct a misunderstanding then theyâre rarely worth the effort to do so.
Had someone I thought was a long time friend pull a similar stunt on me a few years back and at the time I thought it was a shame I lost a friend just like that, only to realize later that my number of friends had not changed. It was merely an accounting error self correcting.
Whoa. That is perspective⌠Fraggles just did a mic drop.
you are you, spend your time how you wish to spend your time. you donât owe anyone else your time, and you donât need to explain it to anyone how you choose to spend your time, whether itâs being busy or simply doing something on your time, at your leisure, and ignoring the rest of the world. The internet mask certainly makes people say things that they may not otherwise in person.
Anyway, thatâs the kind of person I would unfriend + block. Would feel like a waste of my time and any efforts to converse with himâŚ
Does unfriend not also cover blocking someone on Steam?
well, block prevents them from adding you again, but it also stops them from commenting on your posts/screenshots/guides/etc. So itâs a great way if someoneâs trolling your content and you just prevent them from doing it any more. All that community stuff is public, so people whoâs not your friend can still see them and comment.
My thoughts:
You arenât really missing out on anything. I wouldnât beat yourself up over it at all. Itâs entirely that dudeâs problem. For some reason, he got into his head that heâs all important and amazing. With that he thinks, in effect, that it is a privilege to be a âfriendâ with him and, as such, he is being a disservice to you by âunfriendingâ you. As Frags said, you havenât lost a friend. Rather, you have, as many would put it, âdodged a bulletâ. Heâs a self entitled jackass
Ah⌠Okay⌠Will block then, because as I said to him just the other day, I only like drama in TV shows, not my real life. hugs Mao
@Fraggles Thank you.
@Pylinaer Tis true, smurf. Not worth worry, I just felt sucker punched, in spite of the little red flags going off in my head from some of the things he had previously said.
Man, sorry to hear that. The internet can make people be such jerks. Heâs not worth your time and he sounds pretty entitled. So you donât need the dramaâŚWe got enough IRL right now. So huggles and Move onâŚ
Talking big for knowing me less than 5 days, so yes, no more stressing for me. I got lots of good peeps here. =^_^=
I donât know if this is the same, but I feel I kind of had a similar situation this week, but slightly different. A family member accused me of doing something wrong, I had told them the truth of the situation and hoped they could see the misunderstanding.
Later that day I called them that day in regards to a related incident where I felt they had done something wrong to apologise for my reaction, they tell me that I misunderstood something and that I have to trust what they said, so I agreed to this.
Later in the same call they bring up the same false claims they made earlier still saying I had done something wrong, ignoring my statement to the contrary from earlier. I tell them they have double standards, requesting trust from me but not trusting me in return, they apologise.
About a week goes by and we are talking again and they bring up the same false claims. This got me really, really annoyed, I honestly thought we had got to a point where they had believed me but they had decided to make their own narrative and stick to it, they could have easily asked me for proof of my statement but they didnât. So all I did was show them my proof, tell them I was annoyed with them and cut my conversation short, honestly no point going further from there.
Now they are family so I will have to forgive them at some point, but for now I think just leaving some distance will be good.
That is one thing that gets my goat too:when people bring back up stuff, that they claimed was water under the bridge - makes you feel, franked, lied to, >> In your case, it wasnât even a reasonable grudge to hold.
Distance sounds good, and hopefully with time, theyâll forget that particular topic, since theyâre not keen to let it go (at first glance, if I understood). Kudos for wanting to forgive them and more if you actually manage it.
Situation isnât the same, but yea, it sucks when you try to explain your POV and people just wonât hear it. In my case, I may forgive the dude, in a way that you do, just to let go of any negative things I feel, but to the point of restarting our acquaintance, for me: Heck no, lol.
Hope you get to settle things with your family. Thanks for sharing your experience. Youâre a prince.
sloth hugs
Aw⌠hugs and pets
I started watching inuyasha a long time ago but the number of episodes was so daunting xP
I did watch a lot of naruto one episode after another for about 2 months and i got through a lot. How many hours did i waste i dont know
Inu as sad doggo. Iâll give him the ears though - those are cute.